November 2022 | Mellow
NOTE: This was originally published as part of my newsletter in November 2022. Subscribe to my newsletter to receive the next Om Letter direct to your inbox once a month.
This letter will reach you a little later than usual, but as I often do at this time of year, I am in the process of wrapping things up a little early in order to head home to island life for the holidays. For many of us, this is often a strange time of year. If (like me) you’ll be staying with family, it can feel like traveling back in time towards a former version of yourself - a mould that you’ve probably long outgrown.
Revisiting this previous life can give us a lot of perspective on past obstacles we’ve overcome to arrive at this new version of ourselves, but can equally highlight areas where there is room for continued growth. In particular I am thinking about the challenges of navigating our familial relationships, maintaining our boundaries as well as respecting the boundaries of the people around us and, ideally, staying mindful of our desire to react to other people’s actions.
It is quite possibly a perfect time to explore the fourth and final foundation of mindfulness within the Buddha’s essential lectures: mindfulness of obstacles or, Dhammasati in Pali. In Eastern philosophy obstacles are rarely viewed in a negative light, rather they are the doors we must dare to open and step through in order to gain deeper insight into ourselves.
There are five important tasks we perform as part of our mindfulness practice as we face up to these hindrances: we acknowledge when they are present, note when they are absent, observe how they arise, find what helps us to overcome them, and eventually prevent them from returning. Once we’ve overcome these hindrances, the mind finds the clarity and stillness it needs in order to see the true nature of everything.
Here I’ll elaborate on just five of the most universal obstacles we might encounter within our mindfulness practice, though I suspect this list could be extended endlessly:
Ill will. This includes everything from mild irritation to violent hatred and tends to arise when we wish to be physically separated from something that causes us discomfort or pain. As with most emotions, anger or irritation will fade given the time. With hindsight we can often find ourselves feeling embarrassed for having had such a big reaction to something so trivial. In these moments mindfulness teaches us to pause, practice patience and buy ourselves time. This in turn allows us to respond more appropriately and, ultimately gives us the power to overcome this obstacle.
Doubt. Knowing when to doubt ourselves is a helpful tool, but when the mind is entirely consumed by doubt it becomes a hindrance. For instance, we can sit to meditate and immediately start to wonder why we are doing this, whether it will work or if we’ve chosen the wrong method. Once that doubt gets going it keeps getting bigger and bigger. Once again, recognise the path your mind has taken you down. Sometimes it helps to talk to our doubts - be gentle, but firm. Say to yourself: “Life is short. I cannot allow this doubt to keep me from making progress towards my goals.” When the doubt subsides give yourself the recognition this accomplishment deserves. Note what helped you conquer this obstacle.
When we overcome hindrances, even momentarily, it’s as if we’ve cleared the ground. We can sow the seeds of other qualities we wish to cultivate within ourselves - focus, wisdom, compassion, mindfulness - and, like any gardener worth their salt would, we tend to these qualities and watch them bloom.
With love,
OM x
Monthly Mantra
“Observe. Accept. Release. Transform.”
Yung Pueblo